Tim Smith Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 I am reluctant to say this, but for me this worked. All it took was to be shown the stark reality of my health and what had contributed to it. I really hope it doesn't come to that for anyone. It was like, either change or else. Maybe some people wouldn't respond the same way and instead they figure they might as well enjoy a few more years at their habit of choice. Maybe similar to the person who maxes out all of the credit cards because they don't have many more tomorrows, or as one well known poster commented " hookers and blow". Now that has never been my lifestyle and dying would not cause me to in any way change. Never hired a hooker and never will. As a guy I have been tempted on more than one occasion to look, but it's a rabbit trail just like almost everything else. Women require maintenance and they don't always agree, so in some cases true freedom is not having them around all the time. I am happily married, but my wife has a mind of her own.Don't they all? There's passive disagreement and active disagreement. I don't like either one. That's why we mostly agree on everything. Probably the only reason anyone ever gives up something like smoking is because they want to be healthy and live longer. I mean, it isn't because they suddenly lost the urge to like it. The longer you don't do it though, the less of a pull it has. Especially if you replaced it with better things you like to do. For me a coffee in the morning and a nice tea sometimes in the evening. I have learned to enjoy those simple things. If the nicotine monkey had every been on my back, I'm sure it would be a tough thing to kick no doubt. Life is full of choices and all of them lead to outcomes. Some later than others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abacab Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 29 minutes ago, Grem said: ya gotta WANT to quit. When ya really want to quit you will say NO!! That's when it finally clicked for me!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craigb Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 1 hour ago, Grem said: But I keep telling her, ya gotta WANT to quit. When ya really want to quit you will say NO!! During my hypnotherapy classes this was stressed often. If someone were to come in and say "My wife says I need to stop smoking!" we were instructed to tell him "That's great, so please come back once YOU want to stop as well!" 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
User 905133 Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 From what I have seen, telling loved ones they should quit, getting on their case, etc. can be counter productive. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pwal³ Posted October 13, 2022 Author Share Posted October 13, 2022 1 minute ago, User 905133 said: From what I have seen, telling loved ones they should quit, getting on their case, etc. can be counter productive. really? no way! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InstrEd Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 24 minutes ago, pwalpwal said: really? no way! You need a total stranger to tell you to quit. So pwalpwal, QUIT! Seriously, hope you are holding up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pwal³ Posted October 13, 2022 Author Share Posted October 13, 2022 am in full quit mode np 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pwal³ Posted October 13, 2022 Author Share Posted October 13, 2022 apart from the dizziness, night sweats, day sweats, headaches, fizzy/numb hands, sleepless nights, etc, it's all good 👍 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InstrEd Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 3 minutes ago, pwalpwal said: apart from the dizziness, night sweats, day sweats, headaches, fizzy/numb hands, sleepless nights, etc, it's all good 👍 Trust me when I say, having Cancer the medications and side-effects are much worse. Praying that you never smoke another one again. Peace. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pwal³ Posted October 13, 2022 Author Share Posted October 13, 2022 have a close friend going through it right now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craigb Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 Well, stay with it! Falling off the wagon isn't a pretty sight! 😆 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InstrEd Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 47 minutes ago, craigb said: Well, stay with it! Falling off the wagon isn't a pretty sight! 😆 That is totally disgusting 😑 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craigb Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 27 minutes ago, InstrEd said: That is totally disgusting 😑 Hopefully! 😉 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheens Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 (edited) anyone who thinks quit smoking is hard.....try a 60 year old ugly unattractive 100% NARCISTIC woman Edited October 13, 2022 by Sheens 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craigb Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 2 hours ago, Sheens said: anyone who thinks quit smoking is hard.....try a 60 year old ugly unattractive 100% NARCISTIC woman But those are easy to quit! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Maar Posted October 14, 2022 Share Posted October 14, 2022 7 hours ago, craigb said: But those are easy to quit! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Not really. She was 65, 100% narcistic, but not unattractive. What's difficult is to admit to yourself that someone you love absolutely, positively could not care less about anything that matters to you. Someone who is actively trying to damage you psychologically and financially, and who spent the last 6 years of the relationship consciously refusing to show you a single kindness. I even remember vividly the last time she smiled at me, and then saw her realize what she'd done and her smile disappeared and her face darkened. She never smiled at me again. And it took me six freaking years to pull the divorce trigger. Cost me 7 figures and left me nearly broke, but I was finally happy again. I managed to keep one of the two paid-for houses, a couple hundred K and HER dog. He's 14 now, and still with me in France. He's my best friend, the only one who stuck with me during that awful six years. I love him to death. I brought him and my other two dogs with me when I moved here. My one health goal in life now is to outlive all three of them. The youngest, a Chihuahua, is 6. My only source of stress now is what will happen to them if I don't wake up some morning. For me, quitting smoking was easier. Not easy, but easier. Sorry for the downer rant. It's Friday morning in France. Time to walk the boys along the beach. Have a great weekend! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteveStrummerUK Posted October 14, 2022 Share Posted October 14, 2022 On 10/13/2022 at 5:39 PM, pwalpwal said: apart from the dizziness, night sweats, day sweats, headaches, fizzy/numb hands, sleepless nights, etc, it's all good 👍 ... you haven't reached the engorged, septic, itchy testicles stage yet then 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abacab Posted October 14, 2022 Share Posted October 14, 2022 46 minutes ago, SteveStrummerUK said: ... you haven't reached the engorged, septic, itchy testicles stage yet then I've heard that is typically caused by a vasectomy... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InstrEd Posted October 14, 2022 Share Posted October 14, 2022 13 minutes ago, abacab said: I've heard that is typically caused by a vasectomy... That is what Frozen Peas are for 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grem Posted October 14, 2022 Share Posted October 14, 2022 15 hours ago, John Maar said: she smiled at me, and then saw her realize what she'd done and her smile disappeared and her face darkened I have been in a relationship like that. That brought back some memories. Not good ones either. I did leaver her, eventually. You keep hoping for a change. The only change you can control is your own. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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