My first instrument was drums.
Here is my advice.
First: Learn at least the first dozen basic rudiments for drums. I think there are 40 but the first dozen or so will bring you a lot. Then when you hear drummers do things, your hands will already know how.
Listen intently to drummers. My favorite are:
Hal Blaine (Wrecking Crew - the most recorded musician in history)
Ginger Baker
John Bohnam
Bernard "Pretty" Purdy
Start by stepping on the hi-hat (sock) on all the 2s and 4s of a 4/4 song. Then eighth notes on the ride cymbal, then bass on 1 and 3 and snare on 2 and 4. This will build your most basic rhythm and teach you coordination.
Then start going from there. Choose the Hal Blaine recordings first, as he is solid but never gets in the way of the rest of the band.
Drums take time. Don't try to rush, take it in steps.
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