did you miss all the recent spamming hoo-hars? (not just today) i'd suggest "private messaging" is not done via a forum, or even via internet
hope you sort your thing out /goodluck
"protecting kids on the internet" is a thing right now in the uk (at least) https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/jan/18/tech-workers-kids-social-media-screen-time