Lee Shapiro Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 I'm probably the first to admit that I'm sensitive about my songs, probably over-sensitive. But I am working on a new song with an old high school friend (she has a great singing voice, but anyone does compared to mine, LOL). Anyway, she also sang on a song I wrote about 4 or 5 years ago. She told me she listened to the old song for the first time in a while and said, she thought it was "cute". But it wasn't a cute or funny song, it was a song about a bad relationship. It was a serious song. So her calling it "cute" kind of rubbed me the wrong way. That's not a word you often use to describe a serious song. Alvin and The Chipmunks songs are cute. Should I feel insulted? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wibbles Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 27 minutes ago, Lee Shapiro said: Should I feel insulted? No. Maybe she heard the song in a different way than you intended. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Shapiro Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 40 minutes ago, Wibbles said: No. Maybe she heard the song in a different way than you intended. Perhaps. And as I said, I'm probably just being too sensitive. But I don't think anyone ever described any of Dylan's songs as "cute". (Not that I'm in ANY way comparing myself to Dylan....just saying.) Puppies and kittens are cute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noynekker Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Lee . . . maybe she thinks you’re cute, you should just roll with it. (sorry, if that seems insensitive) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wibbles Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 1 hour ago, Lee Shapiro said: Puppies and kittens are cute. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christian Jones Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 3 hours ago, Lee Shapiro said: Should I feel insulted? No dude. It's against the guy code for a guy to use that word on some other dude's song, but from a woman I'd take it as a compliment all day. Let it go. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Shapiro Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 1 hour ago, Christian Jones said: No dude. It's against the guy code for a guy to use that word on some other dude's song, but from a woman I'd take it as a compliment all day. Let it go. I guess that's true. But it's like a woman looking at your impressive "manhood" and saying, "Oh that's so cute." ??But, I guess I'll let it go (after I ask her what she meant by calling my song "cute") ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craigb Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Just sayin'... ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InstrEd Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 40 minutes ago, craigb said: Just sayin'... ? I'm amazed he got through that many pages of the book! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Shapiro Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 1 hour ago, InstrEd said: I'm amazed he got through that many pages of the book! And that's just volume 1 of a 10 volume set! ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Vogel Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 A girlfriend a long time ago sent me a bunch of flowers at work. Man I was embarrassed. A guy getting flowers in front of all my macho mates. It was years before I ever said anything to her. She was just being nice to me using language she understood. I was far too sensitive. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wibbles Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 5 hours ago, craigb said: Just sayin'... ? What they don't tell you when then sell you the books is that you need to learn a new language in order to read them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mesh Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 2 hours ago, Wibbles said: What they don't tell you when then sell you the books is that you need to learn a new language in order to read them. i.e... He says: what's wrong? She says: nothing's wrong The END Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gswitz Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 (edited) I would be dizzy with pleasure that she listened to my song at all. I usually get comments like, 'have you considered trying to play with the other musicians?' Edited December 30, 2019 by Gswitz 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
antler Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Also, don't forget that any word can take on any one of multiple meanings, e.g. does anyone know precisely what 'fine' means? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christian Jones Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 6 hours ago, Michael Vogel ( MUDGEL) said: She was just being nice to me using language she understood. I was far too sensitive. ^^No better explanation. Guys don't use that word, but for a woman.. that's their word and from them it's usually good. Don't go asking her about it either; she'll see you were put off by it and maybe she'll back track and say something "worse" like "No, it was really cute.." Ok, it may have also meant that she didn't care for it too much and was shining you on. This girl in my life, every time I play her a song I'm working on she goes overboard w/ how awesome it is.. way overboard, like she thinks that's what I expect. I know she's trying to please me but still I can't get a read as to how she really feels about it, so now I just get a kick out of watching how far she'll go to tell me how incredible it was. She's never used the word "cute" on me though so I'd say you're at least better off than I am if that's any consolation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
S.L.I.P. Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 If your wife/girlfriend comes running into the room with her hair on fire, screaming, "What should I do?" Do NOT say put it out! You say things like, "Wow, you look really good as a red head," or "Poor baby, that must really hurt. I feel so bad for you," etc... 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chulaivet1966 Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 (edited) 22 hours ago, Lee Shapiro said: Should I feel insulted? Lee.... No.....not at all.....bluntly put, None of us should feel offended/insulted/discouraged by anyone else's negative comments or opinions about our song writing efforts. Song writing is a very personal thing. We can't expect everyone to like a song just because we spent 6 months on a tune thinking it's a masterpiece. So.......if any of us are going to put our music out to the public or possible collaborators to hear we must have the skin of a snow tire and we should accept all comments whether positive or negative. If someone thinks my songs suck....so be it. I know my place in the music world....my material will quite likely never appeal to the masses so I continue on as song writing/recording is just creative therapy for me. I do it because I've done it for four decades and don't expect anyone to patronize me with how great my song is in fear of hurting my feelings. Just keep doing what you're doing without big expectations. If my peers do give my material a listen and do comment favorably....that works for me. What my non-musician/non-song writing friends/family say has little real meaning....it's what our peers say that has true merit to me and is frosting on our creative cake. That's my take....carry on. Edited December 30, 2019 by chulaivet1966 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tezza Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 (edited) She probably has improved or likes to think she has improved since singing on the old song so doesn't want to give it too much praise. She is probably listening more to her own voice and the lyrics rather than to your songwriting and commenting on that. If you are working on a new song with her, concentrate on that. Don't let muddled memories and polluted perceptions of the past spoil a new endeavor. I agree with Christian, "cute" is usually a good word from women. No you shouldn't feel insulted. I think you are being over sensitive as you say you might be. Edited December 30, 2019 by Tezza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jesse Screed Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Unbelievable Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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